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All of us women have asked at some point, what is it with men and sex? Why does a guy check out another woman when hes already with one? Well its relatively simple really, "Men look at attractive women the way women look at pretty butterflies". When it's put that way, it makes total sense, if us women see a beautiful butterfly we will always look and admire it right, or even say a really cute baby? Well that's how it is for men and attractive boobs women. If only we could get that through our thick skulls, there'd probably a lot less fighting between the sexes.

It all starts very early in men/boys "If testosterone were beer, a 9-year-old boy would be getting the equivalent of a cup a day. But a 15-year-old would be getting the equivalent of two gallons a day. This fuels their sexual engines and makes it impossible for them to stop thinking about female body parts and sex." I'm not sure I like that quote, mine is 13 and its already started with him Doh! What's it going to be like in the next few years? Ugh the thoughts of it make me shudder. Then again even as little boys the male specie has always been attracted to boobs.

So with all this knowledge that we have, why is it that we still get annoyed when the man were with checks out another chick? I don''t Know We can't really help it, that's where we differ, as much as we can say to ourselves "hes just checking out the pretty butterfly" the green monster seems to always raises its ugly green head, of course the extent to which the ugly green monster is exposed depends on how much the guy is admiring the pretty butterfly.

So do you get annoyed when your man checks out other boobs woman in public or are you so over it? What about you guys? You know you do this kind of thing, is it ok for a woman to check out a guy in your presence too? Would you give us the same break that we're willing to give you, if we even give you one that is?

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Re: Why Men Obsess Over Sex

I'd say men like boobs and then second would be a nice butt. Yeah I think its in their nature to drool stare. I think this pic is funny:

Personally it doesn't bother me. Looking is one thing but grabbing is another. What is the saying its ok to read the menu as long and your not ordering. Shoot half the time I catch my hubby looking I'll tell him "uhhh those are fake". I actually think how the women react also depends on their level of maturity and their security in themselves. Ask a young insecure girl and I bet she would go ape shiz.

I also don't buy that men are the only ones looking. I'll fully admit I look at more then butterflies. I know my limits and stop way before. I'm just checking it out not shopping the merchandise. NO samples here needed. Wink

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Re: Why Men Obsess Over Sex
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Well its relatively simple really, "Men look at attractive women the way women look at pretty butterflies".

Yea .. pretty butterflies OR attractive dudes! Tongue C'mon ... admit it Wink

MissB and Smartmom already know I'm very conservative when it comes to relationships, so no, it's not ok with me if my girl is checking out other dudes around me. Or even NOT around me, Laughing, but I'm not retarded, I know it's bound to happen. It just all depends on the kind of girl she ends up really being ... if she's a sneaking cheater, all that 'looking' is more than just looking ... it's planning. Or "shopping". The way I kinda see it is, if she's my girl, she should be happy with the choice she already made ... me, not needing to have her cake and eat it too. By continuing to look around for more guys, she's really only insulting her own taste and choices.

I figure she should be more interested in finding all the little things in me more attractive and interesting, and discovering more of the little intracasies of each other over time than just 'browsing the menu' of others. Laughing. All of that window shopping is only tempting yourself to eventually stray, the way I see it. After all, if you keep walking by those awesome shoes in the shoe store window every time you go to the mall, you're eventually probably going to buy them at a weak moment, right? If you stop off at the car dealership daily to 'look' at the cars, eventually you're gonna want a new car, right? If you keep looking at that awesome cheesesteak from Steve's, or Junior's Cheesecake, while you're on a diet, eventually you're gonna have one (or two, or 10), aren'tcha? Wink

btw, I'm more of a face -> butt and legs -> boobs guy myself, in that order. And intelligence is pretty high up there too, I'm tired of trying to deal with relationships where the girl doesn't even understand common sense.


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Re: Why Men Obsess Over Sex
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All of that window shopping is only tempting yourself to eventually stray, the way I see it.

See I don't agree. I for one am a window shopper. I could park my butt in a airport or mall and people watch. I check them all out - the good, the bad, the ugly and the oh my. Just because I look doesn't mean I want and that includes the oh my's. Hell I don't just check out the guys I check out the girls and I can guarantee you I ain't touching that.

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By continuing to look around for more guys, she's really only insulting her own taste and choices.

Nah - maybe she is just re-assuring herself that she order the best thing on the menu. If I went to juniors cheesecake and I ordered the slice with the strawberries all over it (meaning your partner) I probably will still read the menu but in the end I got what I ordered and I'm good to go, no sample tasting is needed.

Oh and by far I will say what turns me on the most is brains. Looks take a backseat to brains. Face it when were all 90 yrs old what will matter is what is in the head...for girls and their men that could be both Wink

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Re: Why Men Obsess Over Sex
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STaRDoGG wrote:

By continuing to look around for more guys, she's really only insulting her own taste and choices.

Nah - maybe she is just re-assuring herself that she order the best thing on the menu. If I went to juniors cheesecake and I ordered the slice with the strawberries all over it (meaning your partner) I probably will still read the menu but in the end I got what I ordered and I'm good to go, no sample tasting is needed.

No no no, it's the same basic concept as NOT going grocery shopping when you're starving and haven't eaten all day as opposed to grocery shopping after eating a big meal, and being full ... if you've just eaten that big, delicious piece of strawberry cheesecake, (the one that you chose because it looked like the best thing on the menu) once you're done eating, that rich, thick, big piece of cheesecake, all of those other pieces of cheesecake on the menu no longer look as tempting to you now, because you're satisfied already, after eating the piece you chose.

So, if you chose your man, whoever it may be, it was your choice after already shopping around in the singles market, and he looked the best to you. So now after getting him, after all that time, work, and build-up, you're going to keep looking at all that otehr tempting cheesecake ( Wink ), when you're not as full? (i.e. when you're in an argument, or bored, or drunk, etc.) the trick is to always remind yourself that you chose the person for a reason, out of your own taste, and keep looking at the person the way you looked a them when they were strangers and they caught your eye, while at the same time, adding to the enjoyment and appreciation for them from getting to know them on a much deeper level. That makes any new piece of cheesecake pale in comparison. Wink


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if you've just eaten that big, delicious piece of strawberry cheesecake, (the one that you chose because it looked like the best thing on the menu) once you're done eating, that rich, thick, big piece of cheesecake, all of those other pieces of cheesecake on the menu no longer look as tempting to you now, because you're satisfied already, after eating the piece you chose.

That's what I'm saying ya big goof - If your full then it doesn't matter what is stuck in your face, you don't want it. You may look at it but the bottom line is your full. Its like if you went to thanksgiving at Grandma Betty's house and you totally pigged out till you couldn't get one more bit in your mouth. Grandma brings out a pumpkin pie - it "looks" good but you are full. Sorry grandma no pie for me. Its ok to look at that pie, its not going to hurt you if you don't want it then you don't want it - its all about will power.

Don't get me wrong if you with a partner then going to the local titty bar or the banana hammock isn't cool. To me that is like sampling. I wouldn't like that, I guess it would be ok if you went together but personally nah. However I don't have a issue with porn in moderation but that is me. When I say moderation that means fine everyonce in a while (porn) or when together but if it starts taking over and filling you up then yeah problem.

Let me ask you this...What about porn when your with another person. It is "looking" so is that wrong? If your with a girl do you toss out your porn collection? Do you think its ok to watch porn alone or with that person if you are in a relationship? To me looking is looking and it doesn't matter if they are walking down the street, a actor/actress in a movie or TV show or if they are shaking their junk in a porno - your still looking.

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I could be wrong, but from all I've heard from most women, women generally don't watch porn by themselves just for the sake of masterbation. Guys generally only do that. I'm sure there's the few exceptions though, but I don't have a problem watching porn together. That's a little bit different than hanging out together anywhere, say, walking through a store together, and your girl is eyeballing and maybe even commenting on how hot some other dude is in the store. Or even when she's by herself, drooling over some dude, maybe even flirting, talking on the phone with, IM'ing, etc., when she knows she already has a guy. And you'd be surprised at what women try to get away with ... for example, if you find out that she exchanged phone numbers with a dude at a bar, it wouldn't be the first time I heard some bs like:

me: ":wtf:, you exchanged digits???"
her: "oh, he gave me his number"
me: "uhhh, you didn't have to accept it ... tell him you, you know, .. HAVE A GUY ALREADY"
her: (acting ditzy and confused) "oh, uh, well, uh, I didn't want to seem rude, so I added it to my phone. I keep everyones number, no big deal".
me: "Cool, if that's how it's gonna be, I'm gonna 'start collecting tons of girls numbers, no big deal'"
her: "whatever, you jealous, possessive idiot"

Not too hard to see how that relationship will run it's course. I think people these days don't often think ahead of time, what kind of damage they're about to do to their relationship just because they're drooling over someone else when they're in a relationship with someone.


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If she asked took the phone number then that is wrong - that is more then looking. Looking and touching / interacting are different things.

Umm yeah I do know women who look and enjoy porn not only with their partner but alone playing.

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If she asked took the phone number then that is wrong - that is more then looking. Looking and touching / interacting are different things.

Umm yeah I do know women who look and enjoy porn not only with their partner but alone playing.

My whole point is, why so much interest in being allowed to keep looking? Even without interacting, when ya have a sig other? I notice alot of girls do that ... they'll get in knock down, dragged out, arguments with their sig over the right to keep looking. Why do they want to look so bad? Can't they just be happy with who they're with? They chose him.

I have no problem with a girl watching porn by herself, but it seems rare from all my discussions with them. I can only think of one off the top of my head who at least admitted it.


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OK I think were talking about two different types of "looking". I'm talking more about a cute person walks by and you notice not that your going out looking to find some hot girl (or guy). More accidental looking not search and find.

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I have no problem with a girl watching porn by herself, but it seems rare from all my discussions with them. I can only think of one off the top of my head who at least admitted it.

OMG guess what is on Oprah tomorrow - I'm totally serious here, women who like porn. HAHA see I told you but that is too too funny. Really it will be on Tomorrow (Thur). 3/25/10

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