Beyond the Fear
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So I've decided I really must learn how to swim. It's scary for me because I have this unbelievable fear of drowning. I don't know. When I was little my cousin fell on top of me while we were at the beach, at the edge of the water. I couldn't get her off me and I just remember my head under water, breathing in sand, not being able to get her off me. Her dad came along and pulled us both up-
This may be where my water trauma stems from.
Which is sad because I'm absolutely drawn to the ocean (aside from the creatures who I KNOW are just waiting to shred me into a million pieces as soon as I step in, aka sharks, living in it.) When I was 6 years old I was already dreaming of living in a tall apt. building (I'm from NYC, I picture apartments not homes, go figure *lol*) that overlooks the ocean. I love the sound, smell, look, feel of the water. But I'm also terrified of it (the shark thing aside. That's a whole other thread of it's own. And I AM also trying to work on that little scaredy pants (but i think kinda justifiable) fear also.) It's a hard feeling to describe but I am determined.
So, my question is- has there ever been a fear you've conquered? Be it, fear of water, snakes, going outside without a mask on...anything. Anything at all. And just how did you overcome it? Mine will have to be a serious baby steps process. *I'm so lame* 
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wouldn't a magic pill be just perfect? i didn't even want to touch on this other fault of mine but since you brought it up. i wish i had an answer for ya but you know i'm exactly the same way by now. it's not always. but yeah i do tend to push away because i think that way i can't be hurt. except that method usually ends up turning around on me and slapping me full on the face. *ouch* i think it's all about remembering that, if you don't go after what you want, and do whatever it takes to have it, be it swallowing pride and confessing all you feel, you take the very real chance of losing it to something or someone else. and, in the end, that would hurt more yeah?...
eh, like i said to yesterday, who the heck i am to offer this kind of advice anway. *lol*. but i do 
you and will try my best to help you along!
as a matter of fact it's all dark."
Maybe try to look at it like this, when you're driving down a two lane highway, you have to take the chance that the person in the oncoming lane is not gonna crash into you head on. You have to believe that they can drive and will do the right thing by staying in their lane and driving carefully. There is always a chance that they will veer into your lane and crash into you, and you will get hurt, but if you let that fear cripple you, then you will never get behind the wheel and never experience the advantages (and joy for some) of driving.
. But like MIW, baby steps....baby steps. I guess I'm just scared of letting someone in and them hurting me....which is why I don't have too many friends. 
Ok, we can get thru this one together. Looks like so far there are 3 of us in need of getting past this one. 
Do a little dance...
Do a little dance...
sounds like a good enough plan to me! yay!
as a matter of fact it's all dark."
Or or or....a trip to FL to see your friend *cough me* who has a nice big pool in her back yard. We can start off there so that way only the neighbors or I guess anyone in a 5 mile radius will hear you scream. We can work our way up and by the end of the trip I can have you scuba diving in the ocean. I did mention I'm a diver right (certified advance open water, underwater hunter and search & rescue). So see if you should drown or a shark should get you I'm certified to to search and find you, even if its in little pieces. Seeing a shark is very possible, I've seen then and swam once with them (when I was a kid). I'll admit the shark close up and personal pretty much put me over the edge, mind you at the time I had no idea it was a nurse shark and they are for the most part harmless
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I'm kinda messed up in the brain. Ok scratch that I'm REALLY messed up in the brain. I have this fear that if I tell someone my feelings, then they have this power over me. They then have the ability to really hurt me because they know my feelings, and they can turn them against me.
I'm really gonna try to work on this though. Recent events may help this... maybe it's worse to NOT express my feelings. What if someone thinks I don't have them, and bails on me? Then I run the risk of getting hurt even worse, I think.
Any suggestions (be it steps I can take, or drugs I can take) to help this will be welcomed with open arms.
Do a little dance...