CyberPsychology & Behavior on Social Sites
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Now days with so many different social sites out there and everyone needing to post, blog, bulletin, tweet but do they give out to much information and can it make a difference in their personal life? I mean with sites like facebook you can limit who sees what, on myspace you can set up a preferred list. Well there was a study - there seams to be a study for everything
Facebook can threaten relationships, study says
Social psychologists from the University of Guelph in Canada queried college students who were in romantic relationships about their Facebook use. Their preliminary findings, described in the journal CyberPsychology & Behavior, suggest that rather than enhancing communication between romantic partners, Facebook use may be fueling wild flights of jealous investigation, as users in relationships perceive hints of potential infidelity and then scramble to find evidence of a partner's unfaithful thoughts or behavior. Invariably, it seems, they end up feeling more jealous.
Ok so I can totally see this - the jealous behaviors. I mean think about it you can write something so innocent and have it blown up way out of proportion. So how many have gone off looking for more information? How many have heard that their partner wouldn't allow them on their profiles as friends? So do you agree or disagree on the findings? Have you personally found any information on social sites that bothered you about your partner?
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So true.
Read another one earlier this week. "Unfriend your spouse"
Dancin' with myself...
OK I read the story "Unfriend your spouse" and I don't know if I totally agree with what he says:
The conventional wisdom tells us that in relationships there should be no secrets, there should be nothing to hide — but if nothing is hidden, then what is there to seek? When you're in a long-term relationship, you don't need more information about your partner, you need less.
Now I agree its probably not a good idea to go posting if you did or did not have sex with your partner - I mean is it anyone's business? Plus really how uncomfortable do you want to make your friends. As for unfriending your spouse (or partner) I think its only going to be the source of more issues. My husband is not on facebook (he's very non techie) but if he was I would have him on my facebook/myspace or what ever. I don't post anything I wouldn't want him to read and he has seen my facebook/myspace. In fact the last time he looked he thought missb was hot - he had to see what the NY chick who I talk to all the time (and calls him a redneck) looks like. My kids are on my profiles so the last thing I'm going to go doing is posting things that are uber private for them to read - nope. So my 5 cent psychology degree says that I think you will have more issues if you are hiding then not hiding and don't post anything that you would not want them to read.
At the beginning of a relationship I don't think it's a good idea to immediately friend them, if the relationship tanks well then it becomes a little awkward, however doing it down the road if/when the relationship becomes more serious, I think thats fine (no guarantees of course that it won't tank anyway). If my partner refused to allow me on his page well that would be a problem for me, cos that's telling me that he does have something to hide. It's also a tool to pi$$ your partner off, so if you're fighting with them, you post something up that you know will drive them insane...thus causing more damage to the relationship. So bottom line is unless you have 2 really mature people who are secure in their relationship, I don't think its a really good idea.
As far as befriending son o'mine, well probably not. Reason being that you can't control what people write on your wall and I wouldn't want him seeing something that I didn't want him to see. He wouldn't want me on his page anyway, cos thats so "not cool" for Mom to be on his page.
Yet another Facebook jealousy story!
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