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Re: relationship help pls i caught my fiance cheating on ...
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"and lets see if we agree with you"

See! I can already tell it would go from an "advice column" to a battle of the sexes reaaaal quick! ROFL

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Any reputable therapist would tell you it is strictly about YOU. Your happiness, and your self worth. If it's not about you then I would say you probably qualify as a codependant. No one should make you feel bad about yourself, and thats what your fiance is doing. Don't bother trying to"change him" by threatening, or begging, or pleading. Just detach yourself from the madness and focus on yourself.

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{Moderator note: Leigha just quoted STaRDoGG's first entire reply with nothing else, so I deleted it, assuming that it just meant that she agreed? lol  ~ Brianna}

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Sorry to hear this i can only imagine how you feel. Well first off i think StarDoGG has given you some great advice, it's so true, actions do speak louder than words. It's SO easy to talk the talk and not follow it up with action. If hes doing that now and he's your fiance it will carry over into marriage. So typical of his type to turn the blame on you and say that you're the psycho, but thats what cheaters do!! Get out now while you can, you deserve better than that. You need to stop worrying about being single, there are tons of single people out there who feel the same way you do, they hate the bar scene etc. There's a lot of internet dating sites that are successful, its not easy to find someone compatible online but its not impossible, you could at least try. It's a little scary to come out of a relationship and realize that you are alone, but you will get used to it and might even like it. Bottom line is that if you stay you will be in for more hurt, lies and disrespect and I know you wouldn't want that. You will find someone who will treat you the way you deserve to be treated, not all men are like that. The worst thing you can do is bury your head in the sand and stay with him, he won't change. Take one day at a time, you will get there and if you're determined, you will find happiness.

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Sorry to hear ur stuck with a cheater babe ! Speaking from experience I wouldnt try the dating websites. I've been trying those for 3 years now and the men on them are TRASH !!! Really only out to try and have sex with as many new girls as possible and just use the dating websites as a tool to meet them. Even the non-adult ones, like Match and the rest. Also keep a watch if he is on the internet too much ! Especially facebook and the social sites ! It's just another meat market there. So many breakups and divorces have been caused by affairs started on them. So if your signifigant other is on facebook all the time, RED FLAG !!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Ur right tho, bars do suck ! I cant stand the imaturity that happens at them either ! Anyone that has to be at bars like that all the time is a tool ! One word of advice though that I can give is just because ur poss. going to b single again doesnt mean to turn into an easy girl who hooks up with abunch of boys. boys are only motivated by one thing..sex !! Consider that a special GIFT of yours to keep for yourself and the person who deserves your GIFT. Show urself the respect you deserve and keep that gift for the guy you want to spend the rest of ur life with and he will appreciate you that much more for it beyond words. Guys do not want to be laughed at for being with the girl everyone knows is the town skank ! Good luck and I'm praying for you ! You deserve happiness !!!!
~~Kristin

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Not all men on dating websites are trash, maybe you've had a bad experience or two but it's not like that for everyone. I know several people who have found long term partners on various ones. Sure there's a lot of losers on them but they're to be found everywhere, not just online, you just have to weed them out which is usually not hard to do after a few conversations with them. It's a good place to meet people from the comfort of your own home and away from the bar scene, especially that she has a young child which probably limits her ability to get out and about.

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MOST of the men on those websites are just looking to get laid.

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Um the name of that site says it all, and yes "those" websites are just to get laid. Seems like you're looking in the wrong places, there are lots of reputable sites too where guys are actually wanting to meet a long term partner and they're really not hard to find.

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Well if you think someone is cheating goto Cheaters.com and catch them in the act it will embarass the hell out of them and they will double think cheating on the next person the date !
Cheaters also has a dating service Called "Nocheaters" I know most dating services suck but it may be worth a try to check out a FREE TRIAL to some !

I know of two good Dating services out there Fussion101 and Plenty Of Fish . ( BOTH ARE 100% FREE )

Plenty of Fish -- is Filtered for certain things and is really good to weed out THE BAD ONES !
Fussion101 -- is a Christian Based Dating site !

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I a Shelly i lives in Texas and i was in a serious relationship with my Ex Guy for 3 good years.. One day we were in a dinner party, we had a little misunderstanding which lead to a Quarrel and he stood up and left me at the dinner party. i try to call him but he was not picking my calls so after than i contacted my brother and told him about it,my brother so much love me that he had to see him on my behalf,he told my brother that it is over between us.. Then i contacted a friend of mine that had this similar experience and she directed me to THE HIGH PRIEST {Moderater: Name removed} and i contacted him on {Moderater: Email removed}, at first i thought it was not going to be possible and i contacted him i was ask to come up with a little requirement information of me and my Ex Guy,so i did what i was ask to do, after 24Hours after the spell was cast i was in my office when my Ex Guy called me and was asking me to forgive him and come back to him. i was very surprise it was like a dream to me,so ever since we have been happily married with one kid my lovely baby(Anita)...i wish you the best of luck... friends you can contact HIGH PRIEST {Moderater: Name removed} on his email, {Moderater: Email removed}. I know you will Thank me later

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