hello i am posting this anonymous because its embarrassing but id love some advice. i saw my fiance's cell phone statement and hes been texting and talking on the phone to a strange number alot. I did my homework and found out its a girl that we both know. We have a young daughter together so i had installed a keylogger on our homecomputer a while ago to keep tabs on herand make sure she stays out of trouble. I noticed a couple of the texts they sent mentioned sending some pictures to his email so with the keylogger information i logged into his email to see if i could find them. well after reading many emails between them its very sure that they've had sex and been to dinners and dates. I was suspicious for a year now because he would tell me his phone wasnt working for one reason or another so couldnt call me like he used to and he would go out late at night even on work nights but only be gone for a short time. When I asked once about some of the girls numbers on his cell phone he just told me "they were just friends" and i was being a jealous syco and that he is not the type of person who would cheat. I think he knew this would just make me look bad and feel guilty so i stopped asking about them. the advice i would like to know is i havent been single for 6 years! i dont even know HOW to be single anymore. most of my girlfriends are in relationships and they hang out with relationship couples so i would feel weird with them all now, and my single girlfriends or the ones who arent single but go out with the group of girls (and cheat on thier boyfriends and fiances) dont do much but get drunk all the time and hang out at bars, messing with boys, staying out late, evenon week nights, and that old story. i'm only 30 but i'm soooooooo past that immaturity. I dont like being drunk all the time or hungover all the time, and the bar scene, and all the idiots and immaturity that are at them makes me want to puke!! I stand there watching guys act stupid trying to get in girls pants, and girls act stupid trying ot get the guys to try to get in theri pants. so what do i do? should I stay with my cheating man who swears to me he'll stop or should i dump him and be single again? if I'm single again do i even do?? BARS SUCK!!! And what else is there to do for a single girl? I also feel really weird just not having a significant other.