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Ok so I'm on vacation in NC and it I have heard once I have heard a dozen times this one commercial and I can't even say who its by but its basically saying "Tell your kids to abstain" then it goes on that you can avoid those uncomfortable "SEX" talks with your child by just saying abstain from sex till your married.

OK I would love to tell my kids to just abstain and wait till your married - or after you get a masters degree or till your 35 yrs old (just kidding) but lets face it I live in a real world.

So here is my questions for the parents out there or for anyone who wants to jump in (all views are welcome).

  • At what age do you begin to talk to your child about sex?
  • How much details do you feel a parent needs to go into?
  • Do you talk about your personal experiences?
  • Do you (or will you - depending on age) talk about birth control and STD's?
  • Do you feel you feel uncomfortable about talking to your child if the child is the opposit sex?
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Re: Having that "S-E-X" talk with your kids

Laughing ok the commercial just came on againnnnnnnn. This time I payed attention to who it was by and its put on by the government - ok now I'm in shock.

4parents.gov
You can help your son or daughter make healthy choices, including deciding to wait until marriage to have sex. 4parents.gov can help you talk to your child, pre-teen, or teen early and often about waiting to have sex, what happens as he or she grows, and other important topics.

Ok here is my take on "SEX"
well since my kids have grown up with animals they kinda learned from seeing them where babies come from. I did however have talks with my kids as they grew up but depending on their ages depended on how much details they got or needed. Now my kids are teens so they know it all and I'm surprised what I have heard them say and though ohhhhh you know about that. Trust me kids talk with their friends so I want to make sure they have the correct info. As for my personal experiences - yeah not going there nor do I feel I need to. As for birth control and STD's oh yes my kids are aware of the STD's out there and how clean may not be clean so ALWAYS were a raincoat (condom). Again mom of teen boys I do actually have condoms in their one bathroom for them. Do I want them to rush out and have sex - hell no but I also dont want to be a grandma or have to take my kids for some STD test. I would rather have them available then to deal with kids to embarrassed to get them and end up in trouble. So they know they are there and if they "stash" should run low mom will replenish it - no questions ask. Oh I also have no issues talking sex with my boys and I do but yeah they turn all shades of red and go "ahhh mom ok ok I have heard enough!"

edit: Don't get me wrong I think abstinence does need to be talked about and I did but I did make sure I covered all the bases.

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Ok so this one commercial has played over and over so I went on youtube to find it and well it wasn't there although I did find other ones. The other ones were fine and I thought this one was cute

I really wish I could find the one I keep seeing because it really is scary as in ONLY talk abstinence. I did find this one - I guess some of the commercials have rubbed some wrong so they did a anti commercial. OK this I would say is wayyyyy over board but it made me laugh (maybe because I find the one I keep seeing as overboard too). I think some of these questions would seriously make the parents blush but I hate to say Laughing some ask these so be ready.......

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Re: Having that "S-E-X" talk with your kids

I had a basic talk with my eight year old girl about sex. I kept it pretty clean but did talk about sperm, eggs and penis in the vagina. The talk happened because she has been asking me periodically for the last two years about baby making. How does the baby get in the mom kind of stuff. After I told her I asked if she had any questions. She wanted to know the actual process post insemination,like cell division and fetal development. Kind of cool. I then touched on STDs, sex only once married (even though she will call my arse out on that one in the years to come), how our bodies are private, and not to even dare tell any other kids. Let their parents do that. Overall not as bad as I thought. Oh also we talked periods.

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Re: Having that "S-E-X" talk with your kids

See I think that's great - that you were able to talk to your daughter and not get all weirded out about it like I'm sure some dads do - so kudos to you! Also I think when talking with kids its important to use body parts by their correct names and not the cute ones like vajayjay and weewee's. OH and yessssssssssss on telling them to not going talking to the friends - let them ask their mom and dads, but you know kids they will chat especially when asked. Atleast your daughter will know the truth and not what they hear 3rd or 4th hand.

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Re: Having that "S-E-X" talk with your kids

The correct names for sexual organs has always been a big deal at my house. I have always called them by their real names. there is nothing wrong with the names science gave them. It's not like I'm using all of the slang terms. Anyway, I've heard stories of people having trouble prosecuting child molestors because the kid says he put his pencil in my notebook that just doesn't hold up so well.

Re: Having that "S-E-X" talk with your kids
I talked to son 'o mine about all of this about 2 yrs ago (when he was 10) He had done that whole thing in school etc etc and so came home with a ton of questions. I answered all his questions and mentioned the whole STD's and use of condoms to him (they hadn't touched on that in school, it was just basically about the birds and the bees). I have sinced then recapped on certain things and will continue to do so. I don't feel uncomfortable talking to him about any of this, I look at it as a responsibility of being a parent, and a big responsibility at that. I have to admit though that the day he came home and asked me what a dildo was, I was stumped Hides Eyes not to mention shocked and at a loss for words, that came out of left field. I avoided it for a while until he got me while we were stuck in traffic one day and there was no escaping, sooo I actually had to tell him, it wasn't as bad as I'd thought it was going to be though Whew!

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